As important it is to guide your children, it is also important to guide your children towards solving their own problems and becoming responsible children that take ownership of their issues. Some children find this easier than others so you’ll have to gauge how well your child will adapt to solving problems on their own.
One way to focus their attention on solving their own problems is to discuss with them what they plan to do about something. Let’s say that your child has failed a math test and needs to bring up their grade. Instead of having a teacher/parent conference why not ask your child what steps they plan to take to bring up their grade or how they plan to take care of this problem. By offering ideas you can help as well. Ask your child if there is the opportunity for extra credit or if they can take the test over again. Always leave it to them as long as it is nothing too serious. By allowing your child to take care of the problem it allows them to learn to think for themselves and be more responsible by not running to their parents every time there is a problem. Some children never learn this and can be adults and will still go to their parents for any little problem that they have. You don’t want that for your kids so teaching them to solve their problems by themselves is a good start on raising self sufficient young adults.
This doesn’t mean you can’t ever help out and surely you need to show empathy but teaching your kids responsibility allows them to be able to take care of problems without always leaning on someone else to help them and this is good for any child to learn how to do.
