Have you ever wondered why you always end up fighting with your adolescent with what seemed as a harmless topic? Do you always get the feeling that you are talking to a wall when you are trying to convey some message to your child? Does your child ignore you when you are trying to advice them on some topic? If the answer to these questions are ‘yes’, then you are one among millions of parents out there in the world.
To know your child better you must be an adolescent yourself. This is to say that you should think like them so that you can understand why they are behaving as they are. This way both you and the child would feel comfortable, because you would know what is bothering them and they would feel secure knowing that you understand what they are going through.
Most breaks in a parent-child relationship come in when one doesn’t understand the other. Parents feel that it is their duty to discipline their child while the child feels that their parents are being too old-fashioned. Being old fashioned is a declaration you would have to hear many times in life from your child’s mouth.
To avoid all these, you would have to go back to your own adolescent. Most of the people find that they were even greater rebels than their children when in their teenage years. Once this realization hits them they would have a better time coping with the changes in their child. The others would have to understand that adolescence is a time for exploration, revelations and discoveries.
Disciplining your child is important, no doubt, but it should be in a subtle way. They should not understand that they are being cleverly directed to the right path by you. In this way both you and your child would be happy with life.